Comments on: be you

By: flip

flip — Thu, 31 Dec 2009 18:17:22 +0000

“Instead of branding, you should view it as being. Being is easy, you just act like yourself.”

so true, most of us (including myself) are still caught up with the labels we attach to ourselves…

By: Nate

Nate — Tue, 03 Nov 2009 01:21:32 +0000

@ Keith – Haha that’s quite a way to describe yourself when you’re alone! I do agree with what you’re saying. There are certain contexts which we need to act respectful and “normal.” I’m just saying to not make a habit of being a faker.

By: Keith Douglas | Real World Muse Building

Keith Douglas | Real World Muse Building — Mon, 02 Nov 2009 19:27:22 +0000

I agree with John that we have a tendency (natural or schooled?) to try and impress. I would add that it’s not necessarily a bad thing to behave in a different way in different social contexts.

For example, you wouldn’t say to your Mum the same things you say to your mates – often that would lead to big trouble!

And nobody would want to be around me if I behaved like I usually do when I’m alone – a right miserable f**ker!

By: Nate

Nate — Mon, 02 Nov 2009 15:10:22 +0000

@ Mac – It really is all about “stuff.” I’m glad you brought that up. Our society is so materialistic and I think we all need to get away from this. It’s tough but necessary for true happiness, at least I think so. Thanks for the comment!

By: Mac

Mac — Mon, 02 Nov 2009 05:01:26 +0000

TO me it seems at least that people try to be something else or something better then they are because they want to fit into the social group their apart of.

The reality, the clothe, the money the houses will not make your life wonderful, but it will make everyone think “Wow that guy has lots of stuff,”

By: Nate

Nate — Sun, 01 Nov 2009 14:06:20 +0000

@ John – What a great comment! Thanks. I do agree with what you are saying, but I’ve just been challenging myself to be above the putting on a “show” idea. It’s really hard. Authenticity is a really complicated subject, and everyone has their own opinion. Thanks for sharing yours :-)

By: John Bardos - JetSetCitizen

John Bardos - JetSetCitizen — Sun, 01 Nov 2009 04:43:53 +0000

Authenticity is a difficult. We are all trying to impress each other to some degree because we want to be liked and respected.

On Twitter, everyone is nice. If you were honest and said negative things you would probably lose followers. Even blog comments are like that to a degree. The most active commenters are those who have a blog to promote. It is not really about the conversation, it is self-interest.

When we go to a job interview, try to raise capital, get a bank loan or even date, we all pretend to be better than we really are.

I think it is hard to forget branding and be who we are. We all need to put on a “show” for different audiences. Comedians are not always joking and funny. Public speakers are not always energetic and engaging. We all need to pretend for different purposes. We are only really ourselves when no one is watching.

By: Jonny | thelifething.com

Jonny | thelifething.com — Sat, 31 Oct 2009 04:42:18 +0000

Nate can you send me your email address. I have a proposition (don’t worry it’s not a ring). thelifething(at)gmail(dot)com.

Cheers.

By: Nate

Nate — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 20:48:20 +0000

@ NomadRip – You are right about that being the tough part. Our entire society is fueled by marketing messages, so it can be hard to overcome them. Thanks!

@ Diggy – I’m glad that you could relate to what I wrote in this post. It can really come down to letting people go who don’t appreciate you for being you. The absence of those people will be replaced by the super high quality of those still around. Thanks for the comment!

Jen – Ahh yes, the good ol’ Snoop days :-)

By: Jen

Jen — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 07:50:04 +0000

great post Nate! :)
thanks for sharing about your snoop days :) I think we’ve all done something like that.
Great reminder
Jen